Accoucher SEULE: est-ce possible et sécuritaire?
J'aimerais partager avec vous 2 extraits d'interviews que j'ai lus sur le blog de Jennifer Margulis, maman de 4 enfants et auteur pour le super magazine Mothering. Le premier traite de l'accouchement sans assistance médicale (je ne ferai pas ça, mais c'est très intéressant quand même! mon rêve pour "futur(s) bébé(s)" étant d'accoucher à la maison avec une sage-femme) et l'autre entrevue parle d'un de mes sujets préférés "le bébé pas d'couches".
JM: Most people have never heard of unassisted childbirth, or never seriously considered it, because it’s so far outside the norm, in America anyway. When they do read about it, they think either, “Oh, that woman is CRAZY” or “Oh, she was just lucky!” or they get angry and insist that a woman who gives birth unassisted is endangering herself and her baby. What do you say to people who think you are crazy because you had your children without a doctor or midwife present?
LS: Usually I just try to explain it logically. Every other natural bodily function generally works beautifully unassisted–digestion, elimination, respiration, conception. So many of the problems associated with birth are actually caused by interference.
Most people can relate to this sexual analogy (which I am borrowing in part from Michel Odent):Imagine you’re having sex and everything is going beautifully. The energy is flowing and sexual excitement is building. But suddenly someone walks in the room, taps you on the shoulder and says, “Excuse me, what’s your social security number?” Instantly you would come out of a creative, intuitive, artistic frame of mind and go into a rational, critical, thinking one. As a result, most men would instantly lose their erection, and sexual desire would probably cease for both partners.
This is exactly what happens when medical personnel are timing, measuring, counting or even simply observing a woman giving birth. Observation changes all natural bodily functions.
Attempting to fall asleep or go to the bathroom with a crowd looking on produces the same result. When drugs, invasive medical instruments and strict time constraints are brought into the picture they hinder a woman from giving birth.
I believe two other factors cause birth to be problematic: poverty and fear. Most deaths in birth occur in Third World countries where people are often undernourished and don’t have access to clean water or proper housing. All aspects of health are affected by poverty, not just birth. Anthropologists who have observed healthy tribal cultures throughout history have reported that death or complications in childbirth are rare.
As humans we are programmed to have a fight/flight response. Fear sends blood and oxygen away from the sexual organs and into the arms and legs so that we can fight or run from the supposed danger. Just as the face of a frightened person turns white, so does the uterus when a woman is disturbed or frightened during labor. Without “fuel” (blood and oxygen), the uterus cannot function correctly and numerous problems result. This is why it’s absolutely essential that pregnant women face and overcome their fears prior to the birth.
Why would something as important as the continuation of the race be fraught with peril? It’s not.
When people actually take the time to logically think it through, many of them understand that birth isn’t inherently dangerous. It’s our modern day conceptions that are dangerous, not being in labor and having a baby. (Read more: http://mothering.com/jennifermargulis/unassisted-birth/an-interview-with-unassisted-birth-advocate-laura-shanley)
Voici un court extrait de l'entrevue avec une experte en "EC (elimination communication)": le tout se trouve ici : http://mothering.com/jennifermargulis/infant-pottying/an-interview-about-elimination-communication-ec-with-author-and-expert-christine-gross-loh
"I love EC because I feel that it keeps parents in close communication with their babies, allows them to observe them, and encourages them to keep up with all their changes. (...)
The thing I love about doing EC with my new baby is that it really allows me to see her as an individual even though she’s part of such a large family. You know how they say babies have different nursing personalities—EC is the same, and her cues, body language, communication are all her own. I also have to say that even though I’d been through this before, I was just as astounded and moved as any brand-new mother would be by the clarity of my baby’s communication from her first few hours of life. EC’ing a newborn is incredible."
Et le mot de la fin... encore des lèvres d'une autre, cette fois-ci, c'est une "amie virtuelle" du forum de l'AQ4P (http://aq4p.forumactif.com/debats-et-actualite-f5/notre-role-en-tant-que-parent-t238.htm) que j'aime tant (Pascal n'arrête pas de me dire: "quoi, tu es encore sur ton forum de matantes"):
Mon rôle en tant que parent?
Donner des racines afin que mes enfants soient en mesure d'ouvrir leurs ailes et de voler!
Cultiver l'assurance et la sécurité affective du tout petit pour qu'il se détache à son rythme!
Encourager ses élans d'autonomie, accompagner ses explorations, partager les succès et les échecs avec confiance.
Et lâcher prise. Le chemin de vie de mon enfant ne m'appartient pas.